Okay, guys, it’s time for us all to sit down and have a talk. Things are getting awfully weird out there and someone has to step up and put an end to it. That would be us. If a woman wants to join the military she has about a fifty-fifty chance of being sexually harassed or raped by a man in uniform. The odds of a woman being sexually assaulted on a college campus are one in four. If a woman is murdered the odds are her husband is the person who killed her. We’re not treating women very well, guys. And it has to stop.
There’s this knee jerk reaction we men have when we hear about this; “Not all men are like that” and it’s true, we are not all like that. But the question is this, what are all men doing about it? What are you doing about it?
Take a look at this video.
Okay, you’re not one of those men. You wouldn’t do anything like that, right? I’m good with that. Doing nothing wrong is something we all need to do more of. Now, watch the video again, but this time pay attention not to the men who are doing things wrong, but instead watch the men who are doing nothing right.
That’s right. Doing nothing is just as wrong as doing something wrong.
Not one man, not one, did anything to stop what was happening to that woman. Were you one of those men? When you’re in a group of other guys and one of them does something that you know, you know, is hurtful to a woman, do you put it down as playful or maybe harmless? After all, words don’t cause harm, right?
But look at how many words that woman has to carry. Look at every waking moment of her day she’s knows some idiot is going to say something stupid but not one of you are going to stand up for her. Not one of you “not all men are like that” men are going to step up to the guy walking beside her for two minutes and say, “Not cool, man, really, that is not cool”.
How long are we, as a gender, going to allow this to go on? We work out at the gym together, we drink beer together, we work at the same jobs together, and whether you’d yell at a strange woman on the street or not, you, and I, aren’t doing enough to stop it.
Your mother isn’t safe, your sisters are not safe, your daughters are considered to be fair game for this sort of thing because you never protected someone else’s daughter from it. It may not be all men who are doing this but it has to, has to be, all men who step up and stop this sort of thing because hoping that women can change us has proven to be less than productive.
Man up. They deserve better from us.
Mike writes regularly at his site: The Hickory Head Hermit
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